Yesterday’s Sean Avery /Todd Reynolds (Uptown Hockey Management) drama hit a chord. I know the issue is a WHOLE day old, but this is an issue that I hold near and dear to my heart because…
This is me playing hockey:
This is me at my wedding:
This isn’t my big coming-out post – this is my open letter to Todd Reynolds. I just wanted to put into context where my anger is coming from:
Yesterday, the biggest asshole in hockey got up and did something very refreshing. He let his fellow athletes know that he supports them in their fight for equality. I guess I am on the lucky side of the gay coin because don’t think I am EVER the only lady who loves ladies in my locker room (in fact, I think we are usually the majority). So I cannot even begin to imagine what it is like to be a talented young man, who is kept in the closet out of pure fear. But then, Sean Avery, an NHL icon, got up and said… it’s cool if your gay, it’s not a big deal.
And what started as a very positive gay-day, flipped upside down and ended on a sour note with you using your COMPANY twitter account to proclaim that you think marriage should only be between a man and a woman. In case you forgot, let me refresh you on what your debbie-downer comments were:
You know what Todd Reynolds. Fuck you. Fuck you and your publicity stunt that belittles what was the most wonderful weekend of my life (August 28/29, in case you want to boycott my anniversary). What was especially infuriating is that you followed up your slanderous comments by saying ” This is not hatred or bigotry. It is not intolerance in any way shape or form”. If you are going to be a bigot, then at least own it!
In essence, when you say that same-sex marriage is misguided and wrong, you are saying your love is better than my love. And don’t start with the whole “but you can still have the same legal rights, just don’t call it marriage” bullshit. Because you know what? Unless it is called the same thing, it will never be equal.
When someone asks me if I am married, I am not going to go and say “no, I’m not married, I’m part of a CIVIL UNION”. That’s crazy talk… I’m married. I’m married just like you are and it is wonderful.
I read on your terribly written website that you are Vice-President of Uptown, and then I saw the President’s last name was also Reynolds…so basically you work for your daddy (which explains how you got access to use the Uptown account for your hateful remarks). Let me tell you and your daddy something… when you put something on the internet it NEVER disappears. EVER. In a couple of days you might go back and erase your tweets, but too many people have screenshots, and too many people have written about your comments.
So in a year, two, maybe even ten, what you said is going to come back and haunt you. It might be a top-rated prospect who is openly gay, or it might be a prospect who has gay parents, but I can guarantee you that spreading hate as part of your company brand is never good for business.
So enjoy your fifteen minutes of fame. No one knew who you were before yesterday, but now you will forever be branded as that guy who hates gay people. Bravo.